The Ten Commandments of Cooperation for 2015

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  1. Keep skid chains on your tongue: always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice.  How you say it often counts more than what you say.
  2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs.
  3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it.  If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
  4. Be cheerful.  Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load.

How to Survive Family Gatherings

Holiday stressAre you wondering how to survive the stress and chaos caused by family gatherings? Many of these events are blessed with love, caring and fun while others are dreaded. Focus on what you can control – like yourself. You will never change another person so stop trying. Here is a starter list of tips to help you to survive family gatherings. I would like to hear from you on what works and even what you’ve tried that didn’t work!

  • Surround yourself with upbeat people. You do create your own environment.
  • Immediately address any issues. They will only get worse.
  • Build relationships with everyone.

Body Odor, Bad Breath and Business

Body OdorHave you found yourself in an awkward position of having to tell someone his or her bad breath or body odor is no longer acceptable? Do others complain to you but they don’t have the nerve to broach the problem directly?

Try this approach and you will be pleasantly surprised how easily the issue can be addressed. Here are four ideas on how to approach this delicate situation. Do you have something to add?

  1. “I have something of a personal nature to discuss with you.  Is this a good time for you?”

In Other Words – More Mispronounced Words

grammarThank you for all your feedback on The 19 Top Mispronounced Words: Get Out Your Mental FlossHere are additional words for your reading pleasure and from your comments.

  •  “You wrote this blog to make fun of me? You know I struggle with Boffet instead of buffet, OTside instead of Outside, etc.”
  • FOR spoken as FUR
  • GOING as GOIN’ (apply to any word ending in ‘ing’)
  • YES as YEAH
  • “I shall put in my two cents with regard to redundant phrases: PLEASE PEOPLE, it’s REVERT, not ‘REVERT BACK.’ And also, it’s not “LIKE I SAID” it is “AS I SAID.”

The 19 Top Mispronounced Words: Get Out Your Mental Floss

mispronounced-wordsFred Astaire drew laughs back in the Thirties with his song “Let’s Call the Whole Thing Off” in which the lovers can’t agree on the pronunciation of words like either, neither, and tomato. In a professional setting, it’s not so funny when people mispronounce words. This becomes a communication distraction and your message will not be heard.

Anyway: Not anyways. The problem with this word is not so much pronunciation as the addition of an unnecessary sound.

Both: Not Bof. Enunciate the th sound as in birthday.

Cache: Pronounced the same way as cash, and it means a group of items hidden in a secret storage place.

Step Out and Stand Up: Don’t Be a Spoiled Brat

spoiled-brat employeeIf you are really serious about taking control of your job as a knowledge worker and making more money, you have to take 100 percent responsibility for everything you do. And the first step is turning yourself and your job into a controllable business factor. You must dump any thinking about what others “owe” you. You are completely in charge of your success. However, there aren’t many people in the professional world who are operating under this belief system.

The following are excuses that I hear employed spoiled brats use—and some of my considerations:

New Eyes: How to address old problems and bad relationships

UnknownDo you have a situation, either personal or professional, that needs to improve? If so, why don’t you? If you don’t, you must have already been blessed with Sainthood! We all face situations that linger and typically the reason is our level of discomfort in stepping up and resolving it.

Considerations:

  1. Figure out what part of the problem you own. Something as small as not asking enough questions to get to the real issue and then trying to solve the wrong problem.  By the way, this is often the case!
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