Laid Off, Ticked Off, and Broke

The housing industry has been good to Jessie. The upturns in the market had provided several years of sizeable commission checks because of the mortgages needed to support all the real estate sales. Because of understanding the market, she knew that it was cyclical and that there could, and probably would be, a downturn. However, the money was great so Jessie decided to ride the wave as long as possible. She just couldn’t leave because the pay was too good!


From one of my readers in asking them how a coaching session went with a “Steamroller” employee:

Well, it went! I can tell you I got her attention. I showed her the notes that I took from the session recording – pretty much verbatim – as you explained the characteristics of a “steamroller.” I was careful to tell her that I wasn’t “labeling” her, but that when I attended the session and you described the steamroller, I thought of her. She said she didn’t want to be seen as a steamroller, nor was she aware of being perceived as described in your session.

Overturn Turnover: keeping the people that keep your business cooking

Nationally, the average annual employee turnover rate for all companies is estimated to be 12 percent with the current unemployment rate at 4.6 percent. You must create a work environment that includes the ingredients to keep the people you have because the chance of finding better employees is slim. It means you must maintain a setting that is productive, interesting, motivating, creative, and successful EVERYDAY! Poor performers and difficult people must be “fixed.”


I want to thank the kindness of all the people who attended the Banquet last evening. It seemed that all the difficult people stayed home and were nowhere to be found. The donations, auctions, and general activity to take the time on a Saturday night are much appreciated. Kindness filled the air and the feeling of family and goodwill.

What has happened to our society that kindness takes a backseat to self-centeredness, ego, and rudeness? Why do people choose not to be nice? Personally, I plan to heighten my awareness meter to pay more attention to general kindness and having a good, caring outlook. Being wrapped up in your own life, whether problematic or not, can make anyone over consumed with themselves.

In publishing my next book, Toxic People: Decontaminate difficult people at work without using weapons or duct tape, I must force my life to be more about others and less about me. Here is the key – I will not allow myself to be walked on! Deciding to engage people that have the same view will be my goal. Eliminating the Toxic People from my life will continue to be my mantra. No longer will these people suck the life out of me, and I will surround myself with the like of people that were at the banquet.

Why Toxic Behavior Doesn’t Change: what Lindsey Lohan, Eric Clapton and Michael Vick have in common.

Poor Lindsey Lohan. The rich, misbehaving starlet’s incredible free fall continues with her being arrested, again, for suspicion of driving under the influence and possession of cocaine. Why doesn’t her toxic behavior change? It can, if (big if) Lindsey wanted to step out of her difficult person role, and take control. Knowing she is a role model, as are other misbehaving, high profile people, to our children and young adults, is utterly disgusting.

Deception Detection

I just returned from a meeting of speakers – the National Speakers Association Annual Convention and connected with some wonderful old friends and made some great new friends. The major reason I hadn’t attended for a couple years was because of the inflated view many of the wanna-be speakers (and the never-be’s) have of themselves. Well actually, it is beyond inflated, they flat lie. So in an attempt to stay sane, I decided to dig deep and remember a skill I developed in my corporate life.

Mental Terrorism

With the recent terrorism attacks in Europe, it made me reflect on how we think about life and when awful events happen, how we create our own terrorism. Many people struggle with the internal menace of self-doubt and low self worth. This mental terrorism can provide paralysis in life. Even the input from others becomes disturbing and creates a thought process that ignores reality, and generates mental terrorism. This human mayhem can be overcome by finding the true underlying cause of your thinking.


Why did the Duke debacle spin so far out of control, so quickly? People jumped to conclusion without having the validated information and data. Trust and verify is something we have all heard many times. So why didn’t the school, the media and the district attorney trust but verify. Had they chosen this route, they would not be eating crow today. The statements of “But what I really meant” are rampant. I believe that their need to have the first “claim to fame” on this high profile story overrode the need for the truth.
Duke University, including the faculty, did not trust the students they scrutinized upon admission। Mike Nifong, North Carolina District Attorney, did not verify the evidence and jumped to very inconclusive, and inappropriate conclusions. The involved boys parents proved Johnny Cochran’s statement to be true, “Innocent until proven broke.” And if not for their financial power, this debacle would not have concluded in favor of the indicted students.