HIDE YOUR GOAT – THREE STEPS TO SELF-CONTROL (Especially during the Holidays!)

by Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

self-controlSome people have been put on this earth to get your goat, to push your buttons, and to make you lose control. Have you developed communication tools that help you maintain self-control? Or do you allow others to pull the strings that light the fuse of anger? Have you learned to hide your goat?  Because they can’t get your goat if you don’t tell them where it’s tied up.

Here are three strategies to self-control:

Step #1 – Take a deep breath
Step #2 – Take a mental timeout
Step #3 – Switch to left brain thinking

Filler Words and Verbal Tics


By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

The more filler words you use, the more you diminish yourself as a polished professional. You may be extremely capable and confident in what you say, but when too many filler words are used, the attention is deflected away from the message and instead becomes focused on you as the messenger. The audience may think you are unsure of yourself and doubt you and your message. This erodes your professional presence.


  1. Become cognizant of your speech pattern. Record your voice during normal conversations. Use your voice record application on your smart phone and record 2 – 3 conversations you make. Be aware of State law as in some states it is illegal to record both sides.

Step Out and Stand Up

By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

keep-calmAre you serious about taking control of your job, getting promoted and making more money? It may be time to change the way you think about what you have accomplished and how you share successes with others. Do you catch yourself with any of the following?

Currently: “I go beyond the call of duty on my job. No one even notices.”

Instead: ”I use my strengths and put myself in situations maximizing them. I confidently share my accomplishments without sounding ego-centric or narcissistic.”

Hold Your Seat! How to be a great presenter at sit-down meetings


By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

I am often asked what to do differently when it is necessary to sit down and present.  Many of the techniques are the same, but there are some nuances to consider.

Tip #1: Choose Your Seat Wisely

 Where you sit can have a subtle effect on how strongly you come across to your audience. If possible, seat yourself next to a key decision-maker. If there isn’t one or you don’t know who it is, then try to position yourself more on one end of the group than in the middle. It will be easier to see everyone if they are more in front of you than if they’re seated on either side.

Six Secrets to Better Time Management

By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

time-managementNo matter where you are in your career, taking control of your time is a given.  Being a strong leader in your organization takes a variety of skills. LEADERs consistently manage each of these skills consistently.

True leadership begins through valuing others.  In working with many organizations, I have found that everyone plays a leadership role, whether the title is receptionist or top dog.

Keep this LEADER acronym in mind as you lead your team, your personal life and more importantly, your self!

Moral Amnesia

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By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

Eight years ago, I wrote a Moral Amnesia article because of my concern with what was going on in the world. From my purview, nothing has changed but has continued on a downward spiral.

We are still in an ethical crisis. The affliction with many government leaders, companies, educational institutions, and people is moral amnesia.  Whether you are in a leadership role or not, the state of ethical behavior continues to be under scrutiny.

Moral — Of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior. 

The Value of Thank You and Kindness

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By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

Yes, you can add value to business with a consistent use of “Thank You” and kindness to employees! Public opinion research has found there are a significant number of employees who value kindness over money in the workplace. In fact, an NBC News State of Kindness Poll found that 70 percent of survey respondents would forego a 10 percent raise for a kinder boss.

We want to be appreciated and it is important to share what it means to you to hear those words of gratitude, whether you are the leader or an employee.  No one is a mind reader.

Coping with the Anxiety and Stress of Public Speaking: Yes MORE!


By Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA

I’ve had requests to provide more information on managing presentation anxiety and stress. Most people are not born with natural eloquence, making presenting remarkably nerve-racking.  Managing anxiety and turning crazy thinking into energy is a learned skill. Having been a professional speaker for over 26 years, there are some steps that I keep in mind – and yes, there are times when I feel nervous!

  1. Practice
    1. Find a location similar to your presentation and practice
    2. Stand if you plan on standing during your talk
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