Do you have any thoughts on this? Marsha
If you truly strive to be independent in your life, professionally and personally, then you must take personal responsibility for your every move. Making better choices is the key that will pave the path of life for you. Stop waiting for someone else to do this for you. They are not coming.
Do you think the founding fathers of the United States of America were waiting for someone to guide them? They were tired of the duty on tea that had not yet been repealed & the declaratory act of a right in the British parliament to bind this new country by English laws. They took risk.
You need to take risk. You must have some substance to base the risk on. Learn everything you can. Go to the library: read, study and apply. Turn off the boob tube. Take the leading role in your life. Be the founding father (or mother) or your own independence. And don’t listen to the toxic people in your life that want anything but you to be independent.
Happy Fourth of July! Marsha Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA, CSP
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Narrow minds judge what they do not understand and this thinking leads the way to ignorance. Today, question and learn something that you are against or don’t agree with. Keep an open mind and remember you don’t have to agree. You just need to gather information and listen.
“The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd.” Betrand Russell. As a personal development expert these thought help workplace conflict resolution and will increase productivity.
New Years Pledge: I promise that I will identify toxic behavior and difficult situations, use new skills in my approach, and NEVER use excuses again. I have the strength and fortitude to continue to practice, even after I have failed. I am never the toxic person. I pledge to stay calm and keep my temper. I promise never to take a toxic person’s behavior personally or to seek retribution.
I know how to keep my power by maintaining control. I create my own environment that nurtures my success. I am the master of my future, my stress level, and my own behavior.
Happy New Year! Marsha
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A dear friend just sent me this link and as we begin the celebration of Christmas and the holidays, I hope you take time to watch this, share it, teach it and most of all, live it. http://www.responsibilityproject.com/films/player/the-home-run/
Success is really about personal responsibility.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Marsha
There seems to be no real penalty because the behavior has become acceptable. Celebrities and people in the public eye have a responsibility that few appear to acknowledge. Their behavior, the way they conduct themselves, the unacceptable statements they make, and how they conduct their personal life, become the standard and role model for many others.
The entitlement attitude in the workplace is killing success and business. Nobody owes anybody anything. If you, or people in your life, need an instruction manual, please check out The Reactor Factor: How to Handle Difficult Work Situations Without Going Nuclear, where steps are outlined to take control … even if you are laid off or “down on your luck.” Check out the book trailer <http://taylormediagroup.com/marsha/reactorfactor_amazon.mov! I want everyone to have hardcore skills for responding instead of reacting … and have fun doing it!
Anyone can prevent getting sucked into all the ugliness of the workplace and stop the negative spiral. Can you:
§ Manage those spoiled brats in the office?
§ Dump your own entitlement attitude.
§ Get a grip on office politics, and the grapevine?
§ Shift your focus if you are laid off and need to find a job?
§ Manage anxiety when you give a presentation?
§ Use social networks to grow your business?
§ Apply survival tools for the meetings that are time wasters.
So the choice is to react or respond. How about personal responsibility? Do you choose to knee jerk or use the personal development skills that get you to the success you desire?
And if you feel so compelled, could you please pass on this message about my new book, The Reactor Factor? Thanks so much! Marsha
Leading Gen Y can be challenging. So here are some of the ideas I’ve learned from top leaders. Conflict resolution will be easier and you will set up parameters to help the entire group take personal responsibility. 
1. Keep the door open but don’t become a doormat.
2. Easy to get along with – they are highly sociable.
3. Leave egos and arrogance at the door.
4. Be eager to help them achieve balance.
5. Give them “spot” reviews frequently.
6. Stay open to even the most radical thinking.
7. Good news? They think outside the box.
8. Walk your talk at all times.
9. Verify that they do want straight talk and no fluff… and #10?
10. Delegate to them appropriately and give positive feedback.
I would recommend Eric Chesters blog too. What do you do that helps? Marsha
ps: Just one week away! I am very excited!! The release of my next book.The Reactor Factor: How to deal with difficult situations at work without going nuclear! http://www.ReactorFactorBook.com
San Diego brought a new sense of enlightenment to me when I passed this statue running one morning. This statue titled Shedding the Cloak made me ask, “What mask am I hiding behind?” I believe being truly authentic leads to the road of success. You need to feel good about you before anyone else does. Perhaps this is the reason that many successful people are not happy with their lives because they are hiding under a false cloak.
And in Popeye’s words, “I am what I am.” Feeling self assured and confident does not always come naturally so think about what you do to make yourself feel good about YOU. Internal communication development to speak positively about you is a good place to start. This increased awareness helps your decision making skill and certainly helps your conflict resolution techniques, both internally and externally.
Just like the Metal Sculpture, there’s gold under there! So what is the cloak you will shed?
I was on my bike ride this morning listening to Seth Godin’s Tribes – again. He was talking about taking risk and how when you don’t — you really do get stuck in the proverbial rut. Then I saw this sign Traffic Calming. 
What happened to Speed Bump? (This link will make you laugh!)
Do you change the words to mask the real message? Get out of your own way. You may have a mental “border control” that doesn’t let you think differently because of the ingrained negative thinking that holds you from taking risk. Learn to challenge your own thinking.
You will fall off your bike when you hit life’s speed bumps. I guarantee it. Dust yourself off, get back on and try another approach. Read a book, watch a video; just find a new path. When you keep taking the same route, you won’t see opportunity and you definitely won’t take personal responsibility. Evaluate all the ways you mentally derail yourself with negative self-talk and how you conveniently change the message to suit your situation. Challenge your own decision making skill.
As I was riding, the next block had the sign Speed Tables. 
What the heck does that mean? Maybe the thought was if someone doesn’t get Traffic Calming, the Speed Tables sign will get their attention.
How do you use personal responsibility to get through the speed bumps of life?
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Problem: You have an employee, colleague or friend who is very talented but when they are given feedback, even of the simplest kind, they start crying. This person is a TOP performer and has great potential. You are thinking that they either lack confidence, or their expectation of themselves is too high, but then maybe it’s fear of failure. As a leader, you want to help. You know that if they do not get their emotions under control and learn to communicate more effectively, they will sabotage their succession to the top. You interview their past manager/supervisor and determine that this has been an ongoing problem. The good news is it’s not you! Maybe you should get this pin?
Here are some ideas:
1. Listen to how you mentally react to the crying employee:
a. Crying does not automatically mean weakness.
b. Accept that their crying makes you uncomfortable.
c. Consider that their crying could be a ploy to manipulate you.
d. Keep an open mind and look past your conventional wisdom and embedded prejudices.
e. Polish your communications and stay calm. Don’t feel guilty.
f. Don’t allow their crying to push you into tabling the topic at hand.
2. Let the employee cry, offer a tissue, and try to empathize. Ask questions to determine what’s bothering them. Show your concern.
a. Let them vent and when they are done, ask, “Is there anything else?”
Quickly focus on solutions.
b. Ask, “Have I said something to personally upset you? If so, what?”
c. Ask, “As a leader, know that I want to help you succeed. What is your concern?”
d. Ask “If this is of a personal nature and you are not comfortable discussing the issue with me, would you please allow me to find someone to help you?”
e. “Please let me know when you are ready to continue our discussion.”
3. If you have to, reschedule the meeting and make sure you get back together within 24 hours to resolve the original reason for the meeting.
a. Don’t launch into the feedback initially.
b. Do discuss the perception of crying in the workplace. (Lack of professionalism, poor self-leadership, low self-confidence, negative self-esteem.) Make a list with them.
c. Set a goal to help this person change their mental thinking and emotional habits
4. Determine the outcomes this person wants in the workplace, their job and their career.
a. To address this issue at a “non emotional time” consider asking: “I have something of a sensitive nature I would like to discuss with you. Can we discuss this now?” You are asking permission to discuss crying on the job.
b. Be their mentor or help them find one.
c. Determine if there is a real behavioral or emotional problem. If so, contact the EAP (Employee Assistance Program) person, Human Resources department or someone else who can help.
d. Emotional outbursts of any kind are not appropriate in the workplace. Consider including such a statement in their job responsibilities and expected outcomes. This should be done for all employees.
Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA, CSP – Professional Speaker and Writer
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