Do you have any thoughts on this? Marsha
If you truly strive to be independent in your life, professionally and personally, then you must take personal responsibility for your every move. Making better choices is the key that will pave the path of life for you. Stop waiting for someone else to do this for you. They are not coming.
Do you think the founding fathers of the United States of America were waiting for someone to guide them? They were tired of the duty on tea that had not yet been repealed & the declaratory act of a right in the British parliament to bind this new country by English laws. They took risk.
You need to take risk. You must have some substance to base the risk on. Learn everything you can. Go to the library: read, study and apply. Turn off the boob tube. Take the leading role in your life. Be the founding father (or mother) or your own independence. And don’t listen to the toxic people in your life that want anything but you to be independent.
Happy Fourth of July! Marsha Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA, CSP
Photographer, Fisherman, Outdoors Woman and Wife to “The Boy Named Sue” Also a Professional Speaker and Author of a bunch of books and other stuff
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Now that’s not nice or really useful because you have just given in to someone else’s behavior. A poor outcome is just about guaranteed. It is all about taking personal responsibility for your outcomes.
So here are some stress management tips for toxic people or those difficult situations life serves up:
1. Breathe – when you are stressed, you stop breathing. The brain receives no oxygen so you can’t think and will immediately flee to the fight or flight — choke the living out of them, or flee.
2. Pause – Stop. Think. Learn. Plan. Do.
3. Shift to the part of your brain where the words live so you can stop the negative spiral of thinking – your left brain. Say to yourself, “This is a test, this is only a test, this will not be important in 10 years.”
Have you ever noticed how you can think of exactly what to say about 2 hours after the stressful event? In the moment, you’re thinking from mental terrorism (right side of your brain) and are highly emotional.
Remember, stress is a gift we give ourselves. No one can make you feel bad except yourself.
Any other ideas on how to manage your stress? Please share!
Please join me in sharing the reason we celebrate this special day in May. Memorial Day was officially proclaimed on 5 May 1868 by General John Logan, national commander of the Grand Army of the Republic, in his General Order No. 11 , and was first observed on 30 May 1868, when flowers were placed on the graves of Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery. The first state to officially recognize the holiday was New York in 1873.
By 1890 it was recognized by all of the northern states. The South refused to acknowledge the day, honoring their dead on separate days until after World War I (when the holiday changed from honoring just those who died fighting in the Civil War to honoring Americans who died fighting in any war). It is now celebrated in almost every State on the last Monday in May (passed by Congress with the National Holiday Act of 1971 (P.L. 90 – 363) to ensure a three day weekend for Federal holidays), though several southern states have an additional separate day for honoring the Confederate war dead: January 19 in Texas, April 26 in Alabama, Florida, Georgia, and Mississippi; May 10 in South Carolina; and June 3 (Jefferson Davis’ birthday) in Louisiana and Tennessee.
Read more and please share this wonderful history with your children, friends and family. Freedom is never free and I honor everyone who protects my country.
God bless America. Marsha
Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA, CSP – Professional Speaker and Author
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Narrow minds judge what they do not understand and this thinking leads the way to ignorance. Today, question and learn something that you are against or don’t agree with. Keep an open mind and remember you don’t have to agree. You just need to gather information and listen.
“The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd.” Betrand Russell. As a personal development expert these thought help workplace conflict resolution and will increase productivity.
Watch yourself when trying to stay on the cutting edge. Typically we try to do too much and nothing gets done well. We wind up wasting time, rather than saving time and succeeding. Purge your “to do” list of any action that does not move you towards your goals . . . or change your goals!
Focus on your self-talk so you say, “I choose to or I choose not to, it’s not that I can’t.” You will only stay on the cutting edge if you believe you should be there.
ps: Did you know The Reactor Factor is now available on Kindle?
Kiwano (horned melon) is just plain scary. When I saw it in the store, I thought, “What the heck. I’ll try it,” having no clue what to do with it. This is what we need to do to find success and add a l
ittle fun. Try something new, take responsibility for changing your life and challenge your decision making skill. What will you do differently starting tomorrow? After all — it is a new year!
BTW, I put the green stuff from the Kiwano in my smoothie this morning. Not bad.
New Years Pledge: I promise that I will identify toxic behavior and difficult situations, use new skills in my approach, and NEVER use excuses again. I have the strength and fortitude to continue to practice, even after I have failed. I am never the toxic person. I pledge to stay calm and keep my temper. I promise never to take a toxic person’s behavior personally or to seek retribution.
I know how to keep my power by maintaining control. I create my own environment that nurtures my success. I am the master of my future, my stress level, and my own behavior.
Happy New Year! Marsha
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A dear friend just sent me this link and as we begin the celebration of Christmas and the holidays, I hope you take time to watch this, share it, teach it and most of all, live it. http://www.responsibilityproject.com/films/player/the-home-run/
Success is really about personal responsibility.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Marsha
There seems to be no real penalty because the behavior has become acceptable. Celebrities and people in the public eye have a responsibility that few appear to acknowledge. Their behavior, the way they conduct themselves, the unacceptable statements they make, and how they conduct their personal life, become the standard and role model for many others.
The entitlement attitude in the workplace is killing success and business. Nobody owes anybody anything. If you, or people in your life, need an instruction manual, please check out The Reactor Factor: How to Handle Difficult Work Situations Without Going Nuclear, where steps are outlined to take control … even if you are laid off or “down on your luck.” Check out the book trailer <http://taylormediagroup.com/marsha/reactorfactor_amazon.mov! I want everyone to have hardcore skills for responding instead of reacting … and have fun doing it!
Anyone can prevent getting sucked into all the ugliness of the workplace and stop the negative spiral. Can you:
§ Manage those spoiled brats in the office?
§ Dump your own entitlement attitude.
§ Get a grip on office politics, and the grapevine?
§ Shift your focus if you are laid off and need to find a job?
§ Manage anxiety when you give a presentation?
§ Use social networks to grow your business?
§ Apply survival tools for the meetings that are time wasters.
So the choice is to react or respond. How about personal responsibility? Do you choose to knee jerk or use the personal development skills that get you to the success you desire?
And if you feel so compelled, could you please pass on this message about my new book, The Reactor Factor? Thanks so much! Marsha
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