Maturity is underrated, misunderstood, and in a downward spiral. Hiring in business is done with the hope a fully-grown brain and mature thinking comes along with the human body in which it is housed. There is a name being given to a disorder that describes people who lack maturity; IED or Intermittent Emotional Disorder. Don’t let this be a built-in excuse!
Here is another wrinkle. In the past, many experts believed the brain had finished developing in the mid to late teens. Today, consensuses of neuroscientists agree brain development likely persists until at least the mid-20s – possibly until the 30s. (Mental Health Daily, 2/18/2015).
Poor or risky decision making along with lack of maturity and personal responsibility can plague any business. Not all young people, however, are clueless. Hire carefully. Ask the right questions to delve into their thinking aptitude. (Email me and I will send you a list I like to use when helping clients hire) – firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you manage to hire (or acquire) an immature person and want to tear their throat out, consider the following:
- Take a deep breath. This forces the oxygen to your brain so you can think properly.
- Pause. Give yourself a chance to think. And if you can’t, admit it and call for a time out. A real sign that you are leveraging maturity.
- Shift to the left-brain where the proper words and actions live. Your right brain (emotional vampires) kicks in when you are upset and angry. The mental terrorism will spur you on to impulsive deeds and immature actions. Train yourself to count to ten or say “This is a test, this is only a test. This will not be important in 100 years.”
Never stoop to their level. You are a role model and people watch your every move, whether or not you are in a leadership role.
Sadly, this is more common than it should be in our businesses today:
“My idea is better.”
“If we don’t use my idea, I’m not playing!”
“Fine, I don’t like you anymore.”
Arrogance, pouting, tantrums, personal attacks, and retribution seem to be the order of the day in some environments. Know what it means to display maturity and teach those who are struggling on this important skill. Maturity is experience-driven perspective and the application of behavioral patterns and emotional intelligence. Many have excellent leadership skills but only a few can control their impulses, anger, and reactions. The key is control. Develop self-awareness, excellence in communications, and become a master of conflict resolution.
What thoughts do you have on how a leader instills maturity in others and doesn’t become vulnerable to others’ reactions?
Maturity is outweighing the concerns for yourself
and focusing on the outcomes you want with others. Marsha Petrie Sue
Thank you! Marsha
Speaker, Coach, Author
Marsha Petrie Sue, MBA