Mental Terrorism and A Simple Apology

Have you ever messed up so bad that you were embarrassed to even bring it up no less apologize? I have and I did! I was scheduled for a professional development meeting and missed the start time. Being late is rude, unprofessional, and intolerable. My internal communication went wild.

In my ultimate wisdom, I “upgraded” technology meaning my world has been turned upside down. My mind is spilling over with new gadgetry including an iCal calendar that I have been told is much better than anything on the market. Grind that up with a new “upgraded” iPhone cell phone, and I am totally nuts.

The good news is my learning curve is being challenged… and I like that. The bad news is I was fifteen minutes late for a meeting that involved a large group of people. Beating myself up will not solve anything. Evaluating the “why” part of my tardiness and time management I believe will … as I take personal responsibility for my screw up.

Here’s what I’ve learned in the last 24 hours.
I have too much on my plate and I’ve done it all myself. Solution: prioritize with new eyes. Larry Winget, my mentor and friend, said “Stop everything except your personal life and your business. You have plenty of time for the rest AFTER your business is where you want it.”

Trying to satisfy everyone else and being “nice” to everyone that asks for anything is not always the best choice. Solution: every time I say “yes” to anything and put something on my calendar, ask myself, “Is this activity going to move me closer or further away from my goals.”

When I do make a mistake, understand why and stop beating myself up. Solution: Say I’m sorry, ask for forgiveness, learn from it, and move on. (Easier said than done!)

I received over 150 emails from people concerned that I was beating myself up – and sharing their wonderful words. People are just wonderful! Now that did me good! I am just grateful that I took the time to send an email of apology rather than hide. It helped me win the war on mental terrorism.

Thank you, Marsha

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  1. Noel Posus says:

    Marsha, one of the first lessons I was taught early on in my coaching career is that fronting up to one’s mistakes with integrity and moving forward, is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. Well done you!


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