Communication – Personal Development – Business

You are probably saying … “Don’t get me started!” We all have stories of the unmanageable person or job from our past business life. We do after all have choices as to how we manage our own environment.

I recommend reading this great blog post about a situation and how it was handled. Toxic Snake Pits and Hateful People.

My thought is the more you read about how people react or respond to situations, the better you are at managing your own. Here’s the rub. Most people that I know just keep whining about the job dissatisfaction they are experiencing, or that awful boss, or the crummy colleague. They become toxic themselves.

Tags: difficult people, snake pit, Toxic, toxic workplace by Marsha
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Did you read the brilliant post from Noel? Absolutely spot on! Now here is the real news. Gen Y expects you to constantly train them with personal development ideas and move them to the next level. If you don’t do it, they will leave you and find someone else that will! Or if they don’t leave, they will become a difficult person and create a chain reaction of low morale.

So if you already know that, why wouldn’t build loyalty by helping them build a resume that will help them succeed! The downside is if you don’t have a “next step” for them, they will take their marbles to the next game. The upside is the building of trust and loyalty.

Tags: Gen Y, job success, resume by Marsha
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How do you reward someone who is part of an outstanding team? Especially if they are on a long term project? Why is this even important? I read a great article and it made me think of some quick tips along with what the article said:

1. Have business cards printed for each employee. If possible, let them determine their own title.

2. Place a big bowl of popcorn/candy/cookies/fruit etc. in the break room once a week.

3. Use pictures of employees in newspaper advertising or feature employees in television commercials.

Tags: difficult employees, difficult people, Recognition by Marsha
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Did you watch Extreme Makeover last night? This is a program I rarely watch but I was doing mindless paperwork in my office and thought – what the heck. Well, I’m glad I did.

Patrick Henry Hughes was born without sight and some real physical issues. He views his “disability” as an “ability” to do certain things better than most people. Patrick Henry has the ability to see people from the inside out, rather than judge them from the outside in.

Tags: ability, awareness, disability, positive attitude, self awareness, self talk, Uncategorized by Marsha
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I am tired of people telling me – “I really have tried work with my boss, or my colleague. They just don’t get it.” Actually, what I’ve learned is most people don’t get it. They are never going to have a chance at success unless self-awareness it the center focus of their personal development. Here is an old post but a good one: http://www.how2dealwithdifficultpeople.com/

1. Toxic and difficult people don’t like being around positive people, because they positive people have tools to manage their ugly behavior. Negative people don’t. Remember that a positive attitude won’t solve everything, but it will tick off enough people to make it worth the effort.

Tags: bad habits, positive attitude, self talk, success by Marsha
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I’ve been happily married for 15 years and we both hate Valentines Day. Shouldn’t every day be spent caring about your loved one? Why just one day? Does that mean you can be a jerk or a toxic person the rest of the time?

This has not been a focus of mine, until I received a call from the New York Times reporter, Lisa Belkin. She interviewed me for an article for the Styles section about exactly this theme. To view the article click here.

Tags: bad behavior, communicate, dealing with difficult people, difficult people by Marsha
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First off – thanks to Jezebel for mentioning my article that appeared in the New York Times Thursday by Lisa Belkin. I love it because it is “anti Valentines Day! And to the Business Journal for posting a great article on how to deal with difficult people at work.

The press is wonderful, but it does mean that people “test” me for answers and solutions. We were at a party and there was a very loud, obnoxious   woman sitting next to me at the dinner table. It was made clear that her views were opposite of the six other people dining. The lovely hostess even pulled me in the kitchen to ask for my advice to manage this combination steamroller, know it all, whiner difficult person.

Tags: Be Nice, dealing with difficult people, difficult women by Marsha
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I was getting a news “quick fix” this morning and was stunned to read about the shootings in Kirkwood, Missouri. Several years ago I spoke to a government agency in Kirkwood and am still in contact with some of the people that were in the session because of my monthly newsletter.

The gunman, identified as Charles Lee “Cookie” Thornton, critically injured the city’s mayor and wounded a reporter Thursday night before law enforcers fatally shot him.

Tags: awareness, bad habits, Behavior by Marsha
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Eli Manning, now MVP, and the New York Giants did their homework. The confidence of the Patriots quarterback, Tom Brady, and his team did not influence the focus and discipline the Giants displayed. The Pats were seconds from perfect. Then the Giants pulled off a Super Bowl shocker.

Let this be a lesson in dealing with any difficult situation or toxic person. Focus on the outcome you want and put into action the personal responsibility needed.

Whether you study the behavior of Eli or Peyton Manning, they both have these traits … as does Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, or Lance Armstrong. Learn from those who succeed and how they take total control of their choices.

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Here is a hard lesson.  Everything you are today is because of the choices you have made in the past.  Period.  Want proof?  Watch two videos on Larry Winget’s web site.  He is the author of You’re Broke Because You Want To Be.

The two videos are from Neil Cavuto and Donny Deutsch.

Responsibility -

Tags: personal responsibility, whining by Marsha
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